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Originally Posted by chihirochild
. He also kept saying that he couldn't give me what I need if I am not sure what that is. I keep saying "I need reassurance and comfort." I don't want to have to spell it out for him what exactly that looks like b/c then it doesn't really mean as much. Also I'm not totally sure. Also I want it to be authentic.
But apparently that's just too damn bad.
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I think he
is being authentic, though, right? He's been pretty clear that he is all head and no heart. Dude seems unable to connect on an emotional level that scratches that itch for you. He's committed to your therapy and he cares about you, yes, but he's not going to be that comforting parent figure that you crave. That's probably where the rage comes from because I'm sure he isn't the first person who has thwarted this need for you.
I'm a fan of putting therapists in time out when they need to be in time out. Maybe you can shop around in the meantime? Find somebody who is more touchy-feely and doesn't add to your stress when you're already overwhelmed?