i'm sorry for all you've been through with such a blessed event. i can only speak as to what i would do in this situation...i would do EVERYTHING necessary to mend the bridges...now...not tomorrow. simply, that's what i would do for my potential relationship with my grandchild.

as to looking at the camera... you made a mistake...with the family it seems a HUGE one (part of me understands that and part of me doesn't but that's not the issue). that one mistake snowballed where all members involved made mistakes at a HIGHLY emotional time. i don't think that it's fair for anyone involved to make high demands right now...them of you nor you of them. i wouldn't demand that they own their responsibility at present. i think it may fuel the preverbial flame. i think emotions took over and i would do anything necessary for it to be swept under the rug until it's eventually absorbed into the floor and no longer existent. if confronted, i would apologize and ask if it could be talked about at a less emtional time for the benefit of all. i realize that it may not be possible as you've described them as unreasonable. it's really a hard situation at an extremely emotional time.

honestly speaking, this is what i would do. i wouldn't make demands of anyone and i would show myself as soon as i got the opportunity. i would try not to feel overwhelming guilt over the situation and try to enjoy my grandchild...or at least put the guilt somewhere until i could deal with it.

i hope alot for your entire family right now.