Thank you so much, everyone, for helping me sort through this mess. T sent me my invoice last night (what fabulous timing, right?) and included this paragraph:

Finally, I did want to say a word of follow-up about our session today. I am seeing how much I am upsetting you right now, and how that is making your life harder in this difficult time. I do not want to be doing this, and I am sorry that this keeps happening. After our discussion today, I was left feeling like our best bet is to postpone our "in the relationship" work until you feel like you are on more solid footing emotionally, focusing instead on what you are going through in your everyday life. This seems completely reasonable, and I would support this. I cannot completely promise how this will unfold, but I will do my best. I hope that this ends up being helpful to you all this all moves forward.

It didn't help. He takes no responsibility for his part in this. I'm still livid. I like EM's idea of putting him in "time out," plus I don't want to see his stupid face even over Zoom so I cancelled my Friday appt. And I'm supposed to be working in the ICU all next week so those appts are cancelled too (unless my COVID test comes back positive in which case I'll be quarantined instead, but I'm taking that little potential disaster one day at a time).