Hello Broked: I believe this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to Psych Central.

In your title, you asked how to deal with the effects of emotional trauma. So here are links to 6 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on that subject:

Recovering from Abuse: Collecting Pebbles

Healing from Emotional Abuse

How to Heal After an Abusive Relationship

6 Tips to Let Go of a Toxic Relationship and Heal Yourself

How to Heal (Hesitantly) From Narcissistic Abuse | Liberation after Narcissistic Abuse

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...-relationship/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.