we have one son in common and we have been together for seven years. i understand your opinion 50, but my hub and i cannot live together amicably. he is tooooo possesive. i am more like a prize possesion than his partner. and though when i recited my vows i was committed to them, right now our relationship reached a breaking point. he always promises to change and i have forgiven him for many things that i should've NEVER put up with. he changes temporarily and then reverts back to his old self again. and i dont feel that it is wrong to be selfish once in a while when it comes down to what is right. i am actually being very understanding. as i have not asked him to move out right away. agreed to a seperation instead of a divorce to see what happens. i have been his support system through all of this and will continue to support him because i care for him very much. but i am not in love with him anymore and i cannot pretend that everything is fine. i believe that i owe him the truth.