Hi giddykitty. I'm sorry that you are in a position where you feel like you need to plead with your husband to get healthcare. I understand when money becomes an issue for things, but if one's wellness is at stake, it is usually worth the expenditure. You mentioned being interested in seeing both a therapist and psychiatrist. Perhaps you could come up with a compromise with your husband and initially start out with just one or the other? If he is unwilling to compromise, I can't help but get a feeling that he is some "master of the household". I don't like to think of anyone as such. Occasionally I get junk calls asking for "the head of the household". When I did in the past, I'd either hang up, or put my pet parrot on the phone, who'd usually attack it.

I think in all relationships, one of the two will seem more like the dominant decision maker. I think that often the other is just more willing to compromise or give in. I'm actually the latter in my household, partly because I'm less stubborn than my husband, and partly because (unfortunately) knowing that he is the primary money-maker, I feel he has slightly more say. But, when it comes to very important things I need/want for myself, I get tough in not accepting no for an answer. If I have some of my own money (I believe in keeping separate accounts in addition to a joint account) I can use it however I like.

One need not see a therapist or psychiatrist very frequently, to derive benefit from them.

I know this is a hard time to start a new patient-doctor relationship. A lot of people have to just sit patiently for a bit to let this pandemic ease up.