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Originally Posted by giddykitty
Thanks bluebicycle, bpcyclist (noticing a theme here lol) and bird dancer for your responses. I'm sorry, I just get really frustrated trying to explain myself sometimes and I also feel bad about something I'm about to say now that I've actually been afraid to really admit before. Well, firstly, GP wrote me back today saying he can support me in pursuing individual therapy and psychiatry since hubby refuses to go to couple's. That's cool. But that's not really the issue. The problem is I'm afraid hubby won't pay for me to have therapy and psychiatry again. He said so pretty much when i was ending it before and i highly doubt he'll change his mind about it. To make matters worse, he just lost his raise and bonus because of cutbacks due to this damn virus crap. At least he still has his job, but we are going to have to cut spending again). This is just really bad timing! So I'm really afraid to bring it up again...and if I do, I want to kinda make a plan first, research for some good doctors and ones who can talk over the phone right now...but it's still very overwhelming. I haven't had the best luck with healthcare locally and I don't really know anything about places in the city, but I'll see what I can find out. But even if I make up a good plan, hubby may still say no, and I'm afraid folks here won't respect me if I can't get him to consent or get mad at him even...i mean, ok getting mad is all fine, but making me feel like I'm making a mistake with him is what I want to avoid. I do love him and we've been together a long time. And hes a pretty good guy, I just wish he could be a little better in a few key areas. Ya know? So there it is.
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I like BirdDancer's suggestion of starting with one mental health professional at a time. I think that may be a good way to ease into things.
This is my personal opinion, but I think because you already have someone prescribing your meds, maybe it might be better off to start with a therapist? It sounds like you struggle a lot, emotionally, with this virus crap, etc. going on, and I think a therapist could help you deal with these stressors. A therapist could also give you some coping mechanisms to try out.
If you decide to go the therapist route, you can try to find one locally who's doing teletherapy at this time. In fact, it might be easier to find a therapist than it would be to find a psychiatrist since psychiatrists don't seem to be as common as therapists. If you can't find a therapist though, there *is* BetterHelp.com where you can get online therapy. I will admit that I do NOT know much about that site, but DocJohn allows BetterHelp to be advertised here on the main forum page, so I would assume he is okay with it. Virtually everyone who sees a therapist IRL right now is doing online/phone therapy at this point because of the virus situation, so I can imagine that the BetterHelp online experience won't be much different at this point? I suppose the one difference would be that you might not be able to contact your therapist outside of appts if you do BetterHelp, but I can't be 100% certain on that.
Another thing you could do is utilize a hotline or text line in the interim. For example, there is Crisis Text Line (see here:
Home Page - Crisis Text Line). You do not need to be in an extreme crisis to text them. You can use it for anxiety, depression, etc.. But I think Crook32 said that they limit you to only 1 "session" per 48 hours now.
BTW, Trump is sending out stimulus checks within the next 2 weeks or so. That may be able to at least partially compensate for your hubby's lost raise and bonuses, assuming your hubby does not make more than $95k.