Hello Yachats: I see this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to Psych Central. Here's a link to the Survivors of Abuse forum, here on PC, just in case you haven't already found it:

https://psychcentralforums.com/survivors-of-abuse/

And then here are links to 7 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subjects of verbal abuse as well as flashbacks:

How Victims are groomed by Abusive Predators

Signs You Are Verbally Abused: Part I

Signs You Are Verbally Abused: Part II

Learn the Subtle Signs of a Loved One's Verbal Abuse

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...-relationship/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/after...hbacks-happen/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/coping-with-flashbacks/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.