agony, i agree. its everyone's own personal opinion, but i do agree that if youre not happy, you shouldnt be there. vows or no vows. i finally got up the courage to tell my boyfriend that my feelings are dwindling. i feel like just getting that off my chest helped and am starting to have feelings for him again. if you cant be happy with him, then you need to do whats best for you. its not selfish, its just plain being mentally healthy. dont let anyone tell you youre being selfish. emotional abuse is still abuse and deserves to be seen as such. and if you feel that he is taking advantage of you and hurting you continually, then you shouldnt have to put up with that. good luck with everything.