Thanks, Brian. I keep meaning to tell you I love the Gumby, by the way. My husband only volunteered to go to my T with me in "an efford to help the therapist understand more about me and give him a different perspectivce." %#@&#! that. Plus, like I said, my T wouldn't let him in for that crap. Or for any crap, for that matter. It's also a personal insult to my profession that my husband won't accompany me to marriage therapy-- you would think that he would trust me on this considering I have been studying to be a therapist for years and will now be going to school be a psychologist-- I know just a tiny bit about what marriage therapy can do for a couple. But he won't budge. I really don't know where we will go from here, but like I said to him-- some of the things we are dealing with are bigger than we can handle ourselves. He does not think this is the case.