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Skya said:
my husband said to me
"I've been praying about my issue with not wanting to make love to you because of your weight".

Well, would it, I wonder. I am only 10lbs over what I have weighed for 4 years now since my daughter was born ( I did put on weight and lost some, but held steady at a certain weight and am now 10lbs over that).

Now I am a Christian and I will forgive him as I should. It just stings right now and I needed to let it out.

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I am sorry your husband has hurt you with his words...... and please know that many of the females here on the board have been through similar issues with their boyfriend / spouse - therefore, you are not alone in your pain, many of us here on PC understand.

Now - lets get to the topic at hand....... your husband say has prayed about this matter (meaning he probably hates the way he feels as well and is seeking help from above) - and he says his lack of libido is due to your present weight, which you say is only 10 lbs over what you have weighed for the past four year.

..... is the weight you have been for the last four years considered to be over weight as well?
..... did your husband have any issues with your weight the last four years?

I am asking these questions to try and get a better ideal of how married life has been for you two over the last four or five years.

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Also - please know that being a Christian and forgiving does not always make the hurt feelings go away - nor the memory of his words...... as I have been there and I have been a Christian Lady / Wife for 23 years.

My hurt has lessened as I let the small issues go and dealt with Me.