It sounds like your husband is not as far down the therapeutic road as you are.

Most people that seek therapy do so after months or even years of suffering and deliberation. I'm not sure you can expect your husband to get therapy until he is ready.

I'm glad that you are not willing to lay down threats to coerce him into therapy. It may not work and it could cause some serious martial trust issues that would take a while to work out in therapy.

Does your current T feel that marriage counseling with another T would benefit you both?