What non true self harm ways can you tried to help you take the edge of the desire to self harm to give yourself a relief? When a person has a history of self harm to cope and yes it is a coping skill of course a bad one but it offers a bit of grounding.. Snapping a rubber band on your wrist is a good one, but what I find more helpful is holding ice . It will release endorphines so your mood will level for a little while, mins, or hours. Its not a long term solutions but it has its place.