I don't think the view of your spouse or family is necessary. Therapy is not about judgment. It's not about you being right or wrong. The important thing is that what you believe your issues are and how to sort through them.

An experienced therapist will know enough about human behavior to identify any slants of perception that you may have--and still maintain a completely open mind.

Usually the only time a therapist should need to speak to the family or spouse is if you have been hospitalized and are unable to provide a history or in the very beginning of therapy during the consultation process.