I'm sorry about all the violence in your past and I am really glad that your current relationship seems to be so much better.

I can sort of understand your anxiety because I reacted to an abusive family by avoiding serious relationships my entire life. I'm ok with friends but if a guy gets too eager or isn't willing to be friends for a while before dating, I just shut him out. So I can understand how you are worried about letting your current partner in, especially because you have to put your son first.

I do think he should respect the advisory to stay apart because visiting could potentially infect you or your son. He might worry that staying away will look like he's not taking care of you, but it would actually prove that his concern is genuine. I hope you will let him know that you appreciate his good intentions and just spend a lot of time on the phone or video chat.

Right now, a lot of medical workers don't live with their families because they know that they can be infectious even when they don't seem sick at all, so staying away is the ultimate proof of love during this time. The CDC now says you can be infected by people who don't show symptoms and the news reported some false negatives on test results so there is no way to be 100% certain if a healthy-looking person is carrying the virus. As a single mom, you need to stay safe to look after your son and he should respect that.

You should also let him know that his persistence makes you anxious and his reaction might help you gauge how safe this relationship will be. Sorry if I said too much. I have to go now, so I'll just wish you good luck wth this relationship and stay safe.