Seesaw,

Unfortunately, I was describing my mother and sister.

After reading this response, I'm starting to wonder if this is the problem I'm having with my partner, as well. He has this need to be the "better" one a lot.. the better brother, the better colleague, the better partner, or Best Man (vs. Maid of Honour), the better worker, etc. In achieving this, he gossips and sabotages his "opponent's" reputation just to make himself look like the better one. He laughs at others' misfortunes. He's an attention seeker in every scenario. He's competitive, dishonest, a gaslighter, a liar.. but blames me for all his feelings and behaviours. He does not acknowledge a lot of the problems or does so by minimizing. Really, I could go on but I've already hijacked this thread with my own stuff.

I don't know if these are NDP or sociopathic or what?