Wow __Sky your posts again hit home with me yet again.

Pink, My H also refuses to go to therapy. I have suggested that he needs to go to therapy on several occasion. He went once to see my T early on. Apparently he had a very rough, emotional session and refuses to return. To his credit, he has made some significant changes with regard to his verbal abuse and treatment of our children. Unfortunately OUR relationship has not improved much. I feel like I am getting better but WE are not.

I talked once to my T about couples/family therapy, this was my intent when I first started. However, a few months ago, I said that I did not think I could handle having her treat both of us. I admitted that I had some real issues with what was discussed in their session. It took me a long time to get over feeling like I was talked about and totally exposed by my husband. I saw it as another breech of trust on his part. I didn't like my T knowing stuff that I didn't disclose myself.

I want him to go to therapy but with someone else. Honestly, I think he would need to do some individual therapy before we could ever do couples.