I see. Try to take things a day at a time. Try not to think too far ahead, but instead, live and think in the moment. You don't want to stress yourself out more than you are right now. Thinking too far ahead can lead to anxious, catastrophic thinking, which does us no good. We need to ground ourselves by taking deep breaths and reminding ourselves that while sh_t *does* happen, that doesn't mean *everything* will go to sh_t.

Also, I do think you need to address your concerns with your therapist. Again, I think it's 100% okay to tell her that you're not receiving adequate care for your needs. I think a discussion needs to be had because if she currently thinks it's okay to talk about herself, I don't foresee herself stopping that behavior unless you point it out to her and explain how it's affecting you.

Believe me, I have been there with a therapist (like 3 years ago). He would often compare my depressions to his breakups, regardless of what I was depressed about. He would be like, "yeah, I know. depression is hard. I had a nasty breakup a few years back and I was depressed for about a week. it hurt a lot." errr... I think you can see what's wrong with that picture. So one day, I told him that his "breakup" discussions weren't helpful at all, and he immediately respected my wishes by stopping those "breakup" stories.