Hi MsLady,


Thank you for posting this thread.


I am sorry that you are experiencing this. I think you can trust your gut. If you feel something is off - there probably is something off. We trauma survivors are empaths = we become VERY good at detecting red flags and signs of potential abuse - because we have been through so much already. It is important to build confidence in your ability to discern real threat from not - and also acknowledge our own human fallibility from time to time.

I'll bet there is a reason why you posted this thread. I think that is a sign for you to listen to.


Reactive abuse is an extremely important topic - as you are right - it is part and parcel with Narcissistic abuse. But that doesn't necessarily mean it is linked solely to Narcissism. I think DARVO smear campaign tactics (Reactive Abuse) is a component of human nature - as it provides ideal abuse dynamics in almost all situations. It is all about power imbalances and shifting blame from perpetrator to victim. Bystanders will almost always believe those in power because they assume positions most ascribed to morals and ethics; priests, doctors, therapists, police, social workers, teachers, superiors at work, parents, etc.


I bet if we were to question everyone on the planet, that we could all relate on this level.


Sensitive people will react emotionally when triggered. Abusers usually find out what our vulnerabilities are - and they will masterfully poke and prod at them until we inevitable react. Unfortunately for a lot of us, we are unable to control the reactions because it is literally a normal reaction to abnormal circumstances; a hallmark of PTSD. Because trauma informed models are so slow to catch up in the mental health community - many people have been made victim to these abuses and remain silenced because others fail to recognize the signs of DARVO smear campaigns and blame shifting.


Someone mentioned the Narcissistic family dynamics - Golden Child / Scapegoat / triangulation, etc. I have an excellent link about this that I think you will all enjoy reading. Check it out and let me know what you think.

http://parenting.exposed/no-contact-...at-walks-away/

I hope everyone is staying safe.


Thanks,
HD7970ghz