Here are the 4 criterias of EQ (copied and pasted):

"Emotional intelligence is commonly defined by four attributes:

1) Self-management – You’re able to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances.

2) Self-awareness – You recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior. You know your strengths and weaknesses, and have self-confidence.

3) Social awareness – You have empathy. You can understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people, pick up on emotional cues, feel comfortable socially, and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.

4) Relationship management – You know how to develop and maintain good relationships, communicate clearly, inspire and influence others, work well in a team, and manage conflict."

So reading these, I'm not sure it's so innate..? Your personal response made me think about Autism Spectrum Disorder, as I have an adult son with high functioning Autism, and he, too, misses emotions. He understands them but you have to spell it out, as well.

I'm not suggesting you have Autism. I'm more curious as to why some people struggle in this area.. as it seems to be common with various spectrum disorders. I hope I'm not coming off the wrong way and offending? I'm sorry if I am. I just want to pick your brain, as someone who claims to have difficulties in this area.