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It really bothers him that my daughter tells me she loves me, so many times in a day. Yesterday she told me she loves me more than dad. For a long time, she wouldn't even tell him she loved him, and in fact, would tell me she didn't like him anymore. Really sad and I've never managed to get an explanation as to why. Of course I talked with her about saying so in front of him. It's hurtful for anyone on the receiving end to hear that. Poor little girl. She's closing up and doesn't know what to make of everything.
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Children do NOT understand when parents treat each other badly. Often they feel bad for the parent that is being treated badly but they don't know how to talk about it. Often what they do try to do is find a way to make the unhappy parent feel happy somehow and they often do that by "I love you, I love you". It's also another way to make sure they have value to you too.
When a child begins to close up an not talk it's not a good sign, they don't feel safe and they don't know how to talk about it, they are beginning to practice avoidance.
Please know this challenge if affecting them in ways they can end up dealing with the rest of their lives.