In my case, three things happened almost at once: 1) I started opening up about troubles in my marriage, 2) my T was strongly on my side in the dispute, 3) we began exploring the question of what are my strongest desires and what they might look like if ,my marriage came to an end. Then the feelings emerged like magic. My desires took an idealized human form and I had six weeks of bliss like I’d never felt in my life, followed by four weeks of drift, and then four weeks of the most confusing, painful destruction I’ve ever experienced. If it sounds at all like an amusing lark, it’s not, and I attribute it to a T who had no idea how to manage what should be the core of psychodynamic work.