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Originally Posted by divine1966
To quote your own words “Goes to show you how blinded one can be when abuse becomes so normal .. you no longer recognize it as a problem until it's too late..”
Sadly your children experience abuse as their normal because that’s all they know (just like that’s all you knew snd that’s why you choose this man) and they are too young to make sense out of it.
Chances are high that your children will choose abusive partners for themselves because they’ll gravitate towards that as it’s their familiar and their normal, the only life they know. Unless of course you find strength to get them out of this. They are still young snd it’s not too late
Good luck in finding your strength and doing the right thing
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Thank you. I'm hoping that if I don't react and play along, they will be least impacted. I'm really afraid of what could happen without my knowledge.. the stories, the type of care, the self-centered approaches, the cutting corners, and respecting personal boundaries.
I'm kind of the rock in this family when it comes to important decisions, conscientious thinking, parenting strategies, safety planning, etc. He's said the same. He doesn't think in the same way and when trouble isn't brewing, he's pretty receptive to my ideas and strategies, and is on board. The problem is, there's no consistency from him.. even over a basic safety plan or privacy issue. What I won't know scares me.
So, like I said, if I teach them about boundaries and tools to advocate/protect themselves with, I'm hoping dad will be more on guard and careful on how he proceeds with the girls.
When it comes to the name-calling, I need a catch-phrase to teach them that it's not acceptable without escalating dad. Thoughts?