You know, you're right! It was one of those, too bizarre to be fiction experiences. I kept telling myself, no way. This can't be real...he's kidding me.

Sorry you're going through that. Is it stalkerish too? I think mine had a lot of narcissism too. I told him and his therapist that he is the most arrogant person I know and that includes fighter pilots, doctors and lawyers. I told him once that he had to have something to be arrogant about. When I was starting to bite back after his tirades, I told him that an average looking guy with no job, no money, no education, living in his parents basement shouldn't be this arrogant. I think it's been two weeks since I interacted with him. I'm still getting the tsunami of calls, texts, emails and videos from him. My voice mail has been full for weeks now. It's still the ferris wheel of lovey dovey sweet murmurs, screaming rantfests, sobbing blubbering and back to endless love in a couple of hours. Sprinkle in liberal doses of selfie porn and him begging for sex and the picture is complete.

I was pursuing a TRO, but courts are mostly closed and only heard "big" cases.

Oh yeah, it's still all my fault. He does apologize, but it's always with the caveat that I made him do it. If you would only reply, I wouldn't have X. If you only kissed me, I wouldn't have Y. If you only gave me the sex I deserve, I wouldn't have Z.

I did have a great session with my counselor last weekend, which gave me insight into how I get into these situations. My marriage is a mess right now and it's a roller coaster and always has been. I tend to get very flirty with others when the relationship reaches low points. It seems to be my way to still feel wanted and also to get back at my husband for the way I feel he treats me. Flirty banter is also prevalent at work and I do indulge. I see it as innocent, but L took it to heart. I'm also quite open about my sexuality and I can see now how L picked up on that as an opening. In spite of my limited emotional range I am very nurturing and L is about the most needy person I have ever known. For months I almost always came running when he was hurting.

When he became stalkerish I went from nurturing to rather sarcastic and passive-aggressive. With his family history of abuse he saw my increasingly mean behavior as love, fitting what he understood family to be. I was dumbfounded by this as everyone else would have had it with me and ran for the hills. I have a unique skill of frustrating overly aggressive people to the point where they want nothing to do with me.

Well, this has been a hard education for me on personality. If it does become a lifetime movie, I'll have to get Mia Kirschner to play me. I'm told we could be twins.