I don’t think there is a misconception about us not wanting to connect. If someone think this is social anxiety, this person doesn’t know a bit of this.
In my opinion it’s just the oposite. We value so much connections that we are very afraid of them not going well or us, not being good enough. This is how I see it, at least.

In my case, if it can be help for you somehow, I met my partner online. So, I took my time to know him bit by bit and with enough distance to grow a needed confidence. In another way, it would be very hard to say the least.