Impulse control.. he has ADHD. Then came MS when he was in his mid 30s. He was into drugs from his teen years and into his early 30s.. got rehabilitated. I'm sure his previous drug usage developed some brain injury on some level.

Yes, he blames everyone for things. He has to be right and win arguments and discussions even if he contradicts himself. His counselor said the same. He gets emotional sometimes and always wants to talk about his "feelings" rather than his "behaviours". As I've said, image is really important to him. He wants people to believe he's nice and funny.. and can be.. but often his "funny" is on the expense of someone else.

He will sabotage anyone's reputation if in return will make him more superior. He's competitive and competes against me. There's a deep rooted resentment against his sister whom he feels looks down on him. And maybe she does.. she's younger than he but talks to him like he's her little brother.

His behaviours towards me I feel is displaced. He's trying to maintain a reputation of a guy that made a turn around in his life. He still wears the "recovering" addict like a badge, even though it's been nearly 10 years now. I'm his accomplice (if I can even use this word correctly).. by helping him maintain his image as the "family man".. but throws me under the bus whenever he feels his image is being questioned.

It goes on..