Yes, I might try that. During every fight, she makes a lot of threats as if she has all the power and I would be lost without her. But after a fight she treads carefully for a while. After a particularly bad fight, it lasted several months and then the swearing and temoer tantrums gradually came back until we got into another full blown fight.

I have gained a lot of ground, I think. The last fight over was something I needed to change to reduce our debts so I can eventually have enough money get away from her.