My ex wouldnt/couldnt get the idea that I wanted out I first asked him to leave after three years of marriage it took me till fifteen years and ME moving out with five children before I realised I didnt have to put up with life like this anymore that I can empower myself and start a life without his permission.

He went downhill fast and I felt so guilty but someone told me he was deliberatly allowing it to happen as he knew which buttons to push with me to make me feel bad and hopefully return.

I stood fast for the first time in years and ignored him and what he was doing, I met someone else and had a child with him, he has still not really got the idea as he recently asked my mother if she thought I might return.

I have realised that he is master of his own destiny and I cant live my life for another person.

Back off and let him do his own thing its kinder in the long run as he will stand on his own feet faster.