I agree with atypical disaster that this man sounds like an abuser and a total jerk, horrible choice of a partner regardless if he has a disorder or not.

Plus no one can diagnose anyone by just reading lists of characteristics. Diagnosing people with personality disorders is a complicated matter and cannot be properly done by their spouses, let alone people online. It doesn’t work that way, could lead to more confusion and create even more issues.

It’s generally not recommended to diagnose anyone with anything unless you are a psychiatrist and formally assessing someone under proper circumstances.