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Originally Posted by divine1966
Some things aren’t meant to be interpreted literally. Like if you tell your guests that you want them to feel at home, you don’t actually mean that you want them to move in and treat your house like it’s theirs and walk around in your underwear (if that what one does at hkme). Just be reasonably comfortable
As about going through people’s fridge, I don’t care if I am told it’s ok. Unless I live there or it’s my mom or my daughter, I am not going to open people’s fridge.
Parents of your friends sound like they are pushovers. I understand if all these friends were kids but these are adults. Most people can’t afford feeding that many adults who don’t reside there. Perhaps they are uncomfortable telling people to stop or hope that people would use common sense. Sure it’s much better to be direct but they sound like they aren’t comfortable spelling it out.
I myself am a direct person but I could see how sometimes it’s just hard for some people and they hope that others don’t need things to be spelled out all the time
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Exactly. I would never ever just go through the fridge unless they said recommended me food to eat. Usually the only time this will happen is if we are about to attend an event and it may be the last time we eat in awhile, then my friend or one of her parents may say, "Here is cereal and there's some meat to make yourself a sandwich." They may even go as far as to pull the stuff out for me and I decide what I want. in that case, I'm more willing to accept since they went through great effort to get me to eat. But other than that, I wouldn't go through their stuff. I agree, I think they are push overs. My real only mistake was eating ravioli with my friend after her mom said we could have some. Even then, I wasn't the one who pulled the stuff out. Also her mom told me a couple times that since they know me well enough and that I'm there a lot, I should feel comfortable and welcomed to take whatever I want from the fridge.
Of course, I'm still not going to do that. The only other exception is if, in the very rare times, that something that belonged to me was in the fridge, when I go to leave, I just take whatever is mine out. But even then, I still let them know what I'm doing. It's all about respect. My friend did, but there was probably something else we missed. Perhaps she wasn't very clear on what didn't care what we ate and what was off limits. I depend on my friend to know better since she knows her mom better than I do, but it is possible that wasn't the case. In fact, there has been numerous times where I was the one who noticed one or both of her parents were unhappy with something, about anything, before my friend even realized it. Good thing is they stopped hosting the events. I honestly don't think they ever really liked it. I'm glad they stopped stressing themselves out. Trust me, it got bad enough to where they actually got into arguments over what to do or what has to be done. Not a good sign, clearly meant they just weren't happy. Ever since they stopped, they've been happier and less stressed.