I'm thinking about this whole comfort topic. I think for me, I most want to be validated. Which is something I generally missed out on in childhood. Like, it helps right now to be talking to Dr. T about how much things suck right now being stuck inside with D and H, especially with D struggling so much and not knowing how to help her. And his basically saying, "Yeah, it does really suck, I wouldn't be doing any better than you in your situation," that really helps. Friends telling me similar things help as well. Because my mom tended (still does) to invalidate me so much. H doesn't do so well with validation, so he's not usually a good source. I mean, I was recently telling him about some of my fears regarding Covid, and he was just like, "Wow, that really spiraled quickly." Though, hm, I guess I wanted both validation and comfort from him, like a hug or something (yes, I know, I could have just asked for a hug, but I was standing there crying talking about fears of dying along in a hospital...). He can be validating with work stuff sometimes, less so other things.

I need to think on this more...comfort vs. validation. And support, where does that fall in there?