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Brian37 said:
so what are you going to do when therapy ends?... your T is not your friend

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Brian, I am healthily and strongly attached to my therapist. I am not obsessed, although there was a time earlier in our relationship when I was feeling a bit over the top. But we have settled into such a comfortable and intimate relationship. It's wonderful. You mentioned about being friends--I wonder, is that what you want? I have heard that some people in therapy want that. For me, I am not my T's friend outside of his office and I don't want to be. I am not his lover and don't want to be. I want him to be my therapist only, just like he is. It's perfect. Yes, termination will be hard, but we will work through it and take the time it deserves. My T has told me that when we are done with therapy I can still come back and see him if I need to for future issues or just for an occasional "tune-up" so I know that termination doesn't mean it's completely over. After therapy, I will continue to apply what I am learning in therapy about forming healthy attachments and bonds to other people in my life--friends, family, lovers. (I still have so far to go.) This can be such a great value of therapy--through the healthy attachment to and relationship with your T, you can learn how to do that in all of your relationships. I wish that for you too.