Yes, same situation. High-conflict divorce with Narcissist (NPD). Two minor children home. Have found a few coping techniques that are assisting.

1. 1-2 times a day (before children wake or late at nigh with flashlight) I am walking with the dog. I am losing weight/becoming more confident, dog is healthier, and I am reconnecting with supportive friends/family during phone calls during the walk.

2. Spouse shut-off all cable, took cable boxes back to Cable company. He bought an Amazon stick for the bedroom so he can watch news and programming by self and with children.

He is continuously attempting to isolate me and cut-off interactions with children, news sources, etc.

I purchased a $59 Roku stick with earphone plug in remote (a Godsend!). You will need rechargeable batteries as earphones seem to drain batteries. Free channels to download (free music, free religious support like Joyce Meyer channel, free news...). Just need wifi/internet access. This is a sanity, game-changer for me. simply turn on music/support tv and plug-in (avoiding conflict and interactions).

Available at Best Buy. Order online for curbside pick-up.

3. Signed-up for grocery delivery service (Dave Ramsey has a 50% off discount for Shipt if you sign-up for free trial of 14 day eMeals service). This reduced Shipt service from $99 to $50 per year.

SHIPT
NO fees for delivery of $35 orders or more. This is very empowering! No more bowing-down to spouse (yes, he controls grocery purchases too). No covid concerns for me in regards to shopping. No leaving home, so he can document that I am away from the children.

Many stores are on the list (based on location). You can also add multiple addresses to list for FREE (college students, gift delivery).

4. Free podcasts. I highly recommend listening to BOTH podcasts if you think you are being abused.

Grow with Christine by Christine Hammond (also FREE on iTunes, has website)

"All is Fair" by Laura Wasser (FREE on iTunes, iHeart radio, has website)

5. Divorce financing (I first heard of this via the All is Fair podcast above) financing is offered by Nicole Noonan, of New Chapter Capital. You can get a $20,000 loan by contacting your chosen attorney and having them initiate an e-mail to New Chapter Capital. Your Attorney will simply verify if you have sufficient assets to pay back, following divorce.

I wish I had known about this financing before hiring my attorney. I would have been MUCH more aggressive and LESS FEARFUL with $20,000 backing me (he cut me off financially).

I estimated the loan rate to be under 20%, if it was taken for 2 years. Much better than the interest I am paying on a charge account!

6. Join a church, see if they have services online? Mine already offered this service, so it was an easy transition. I watch weekly either online, via Vimeo (free app) or more recently on Roku through the Vimeo channel.

7. Join a church divorce support group. This was very helpful for me. You are not alone and what we are going through is common. Listening to others issues helped to give me perspective, prioritize, and helps me to realize that this too shall pass. This support group recently began meeting online, using Zoom video conference software.

8. Connect with a counselor, therapist, psychiatrist online (one who deals with abuse victims). I recently had a phone session with an NPD therapist. Many of these therapists are moving to offering online service to individuals like us who are going through abuse with spouses.

9. The DAWN center also offers free phone counseling.

10. If your spouse is like mine, You might want to see about ordering a "safe" phone. Maybe order a used phone, identical to the one they have access to). My spouse has been monitoring my Realize that he tapped into my icloud, email, photos and much more. This bizarre OCD control issue is part of the NPD disorder. It is abusive, crazy-making behavior.

Please let me know if any of these help.

Prayers for Peace,