Did we talk about the Emotional Neglect book? Im not sure if thats the same one that 20 people on the couch yelled at me and said they buried it in their backyard, it was so horrible. It listed like 20 things normal emotional things that should have happened. One book also suggested the backwards hug, which some people found triggering as it reminded them of being restrained. But as someone who really was not held enough, a backward hug - my back against ts chest, ts arms around me, no questionable parts touching, no breathing on each other, etc! - well it filled a need for me. It happened once or twice.