View Single Post
 
Old Apr 16, 2020, 07:20 AM
HD7970GHZ's Avatar
HD7970GHZ HD7970GHZ is offline
Grand Poohbah
 
Member Since: Sep 2013
Location: N/A
Posts: 1,776
Quote:
Originally Posted by MrMoose View Post
“I was just trying to explain myself (defend myself) over something he took offense to.”

A partnership is where two people commit to being together, working out problems together, and communicating.

A relationship with an abuser is just one mind game after another. You’re trying to explain yourself, defend yourself, communicate truth and emotions? That’s nice. Anything you say can and will be used against you in court—or at least in a future argument. The abuser is just using your raw emotional state to play mind games. You have to stop thinking that you can defend yourself: it won’t stop the endless verbal attacks against you. You have to stop thinking that explaining yourself is communicating—the abuser isn’t intersted in listening and is just picking out the bits that can be used against you. I’m sorry: I know all that sounds harsh to say. You deserve a real relationship with someone who cares about you and understands how to communicate and wants to do that. But abusers can’t have partnerships: they don’t know how. They just have controlling relationships.


Hi MrMoose,

This is absolutely accurate and thank you for providing this insight to us. I absolutely love and appreciate it! I think your paragraph ought to be given to anyone experiencing Narcissistic abuse injuries - especially those who are surrounded by Narcissists and look to become healthy and replace them with healthier alternatives.


Thanks,
HD7970ghz
__________________
"stand for those who are forgotten - sacrifice for those who forget"
"roller coasters not only go up and down - they also go in circles"
"the point of therapy - is to get out of therapy"
"don't put all your eggs - in one basket"
"promote pleasure - prevent pain"
"with change - comes loss"
Thanks for this!
MrMoose