I actually tend to cringe away from people who try to be comforting. I need the space to work that out for myself. I suppose the fact that they recognized that about me and didn't try to be all warm and fuzzy was in itself comforting.

What WAS comforting to me was having someone who could help me see things clearly and get out my my emotional headspace which was probably haywire at the time. My intellect serves me well, and therapists who could tap into that cognitive space and help me reason things out were doing the work of helping me find some balance.