This may sound strange but one of the ways she us very comforting is in how she handles my grief over the loss of T. She knows that T and I had a unique relationship for 10 years and that T and there was a maternal relationship. I use to worry about talking about T too much and voiced it a couple of times. She was very comforting and told me T was always allowed in the room whether it were to discuss my grief, work that T and I had done or things we found helpful. She would always honor and respect the work we had accomplished. Emdr T will never be T (she has voiced that) and I am not sure she will ever be the perfect T for me but just knowing her stance on T has been very comforting.