I think a person who treats you cruelly and heartlessly will always turn it around to make themselves the victim when you confront them about their bad behavior. It happened to me with the few relationships I had where that person turned on me and we are now no or low contact. People don’t want to own up to their shyt. They twist it around to vilify the victim. I can’t think of anyone else who ever hurt me, I confronted, and they apologized. No one else hurt me deeply in the first place. That’s why we’re still close. I have never been confronted for my being cruel, because I haven’t been. When people like you, they treat you well. Plain and simple.