I can't answer for Thirty shades but for me....

I was ''very quiet'' (forever being labelled that)
''soft hearted'' - labelled as such (aka ''weak'' as perceived by those who Know the Untruths in the world..)
''not demonstrative''



But who was I really?

None of those things. I was me. A lovely cub/being filled with love which was not appreciated or noticed...

A cub who was told I must be seen and never heard.... and then berated for being ''excessively shy''

A cub who was forced to stay alone, in silence and then berated for not being an adult at age 17 to leave the parents ''nest'' permanently so I no longer bothered them.

Soon after, they did force me out and told me I was a failure as they had clipped my wings so I could not fly...