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your T is not your friend and never will be.....inside the walls of his office you may feel that, but at some point your brain must accept him/her for who they are..

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I don't think of T as my friend. I do accept him and think of him as my therapist. But he knows me better than most people in this world.

If I worry now about when therapy ends I won't get the benefits of deep healing that can only occur if there is a real personal attachment. When T and I decide together that it is time to end therapy then we will wind down gradually and talk through the normal grieving that takes place.

Attachment is very healing and actually the goal of the therapeutic relationship. You should try it, you may find that you like it!