If I was being dismissive of T’s suggestions he would say I am not feeling safe enough with him yet or that we haven’t found the underlying cause of why. He would never tell me I was being dismissive as if I were intentionally being “bad”. Now that we have worked together over a year and are very close with a lot of trust he might gently ask about being seen as dismissive but that would be as direct as he got. If I can’t hear it yet then I am not ready to work on it.