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Originally Posted by Salmon77
I gather that you have been very hurt by these therapists, but I don't see much point in paying them again just to give them a piece of your mind or get revenge or whatever. It may be worthwhile to see a different therapist and try to come to terms with what happened, but "telling them what they want to hear" is pointless.
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I have no wish to ''get revenge''.. I am sure they would be completely indifferent to anything I might say. One of them made it very clear how indifferent he felt to me (just like the parental units..)
It would be for me, not to ''wound'' them......many advise someone to write a letter to a former abuser and maybe not send it.
I do agree that ''telling a therapist what they want to hear'' is pointless.
Although if a therapist has a certain dx and also is not good at their job it can be helpful to feed their ego, telling them what they want to hear... just enough positive reinforcement, not ''too much'' and risking being labelled as having an ''unhealthy dependency''... oh the labels... so boring
I find therapists who do not dish out labels much more helpful.
I did nothing that was ''unhealthy'' with either of those therapists. I paid them to listen to me, to listen and respond in a therapeutic way. I did not receive an adequate service. And they were expensive.
