My therapist is pretty blunt about her experience of me and it is often very hard to hear. She has told me that I am a cold fish, that she has to steel herself to meet me, that therapy with me is challenging, and so on. I am relatively unpleasant, but I don't want to be reminded of it. Of course, the fact that I don't want to be reminded of it is part of my work - to say nothing of the exploration around what prompts me to respond like this to others. I told her recently that it isn't helpful for me to hear these things in this way and that it is just painful. She seemed to understand. I often think that to be in therapy you have to be emotionally robust and literate - ironic given the reasons with which most of us go to therapy.

Maybe your therapists had a point about some of your characteristics and responses. Perhaps you need to find a therapist who can practice more relationally and perhaps that would enable you to work on your defenses. Being too sensitive and unendearing do not sound like faults to me, they sound like creative adjustments.