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Old Apr 19, 2020, 04:20 AM
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Hey @rdgrad15 This reminds me of "guilt by association". People will judge you for who you associate with. And if you associate with someone who is a terrible or toxic person then others will assume you are either the same way or that you approve of the behavior of the toxic person.
By nature, most toxic people treat just about everyone poorly. So people that treat you coldly because of this person often have had their own experiences with this toxic person and by association they will also be wary of you. This is different then having unique or diverse friends that people will judge (ex someone who is a biker but looked upon as a drug dealing "son's of anarchy" member just because they look the part.

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Then, as soon as I stopped hanging out with the toxic person, those who used to be standoffish with me were suddenly nicer and warm towards me.
well there's your clear indication that its all about the toxic person and has nothing to do with you. It also shows that people will not forever hold something against you for being friends with this person.
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