I can't speak to going for toxic people, however I also like to be dominated most of the time. Most people who are dominated and abused do so within the boundaries of a respectful relationship. The dominant partner has a responsibility to care for you just as in a 'normal' relationship, even though he is also fulfilling your desire to be dominated in a sexual or lifestyle context. As long as you can communicate your needs for a healthy relationship, and have those needs met, you can continue to be dominated, while also being an equal.