Thanks for the replies. I agree divorce sucks for the kids one way or another (my parents are divorced) I might be biased but I think divorce is a good thing in the right circumstances, including for the kids. I can also say therapy is a good thing and has pulled my marriage back from the edge more than once, but it's a cycle that I am done repeating. This isn't the first time my wife has had an emotional, or more, affair. I have always let them slide in the past, I know I could do it again and I would have a couple months of peace but I would be kidding myself. To top it off my wife has no intention of dropping her emotional affair she just wants both relationships.