well, it looks as if it is different from a "Jerry Springer" show.......seems some good sense has prevailed.........NOW..about the elephant in the room..........leave it be!!! forget it!! don't go there!! accept your good favor and go forward....quit dwelling on this.......what's not there will soon be forgotten, UNLESS you continue to drag it with you..........this is said with love and firmness and utter joy that you seem to have gotten past the worst stuff.....xoxoxo pat