[QUOTE=wing;6823372]I’m struggling why this would be called an “emotional” affair! This is an old-fashioned affair with lying and cheating, and sorry, I’m in agreement that there is probably sex involved.

Her stopping the affair is the immediate, unarguable first step. I can’t believe she’d want continue to talk to the ex while expecting you to believe she doesn’t want your marriage to end.

There are two sides to every story, and marriage counseling is an absolute must if you two really want to get past this.