That was a stupid man you spent time with, but the time was not wasted if you learned from it. Please don't rule out men as friends, just friends. It can happen - married or not.

Comment to men who do this: If you want a female friend, not your wife, and not for sexual congress, just be up front and honest about it with everyone concerned, including your wife. My 2 best "buddies" outside my marriage are both women! One is single and also a good friend of my wife, the other is a co-worker with whom I have lunch almost every day. We talk, laugh, joke, write each other, etc and all have found great value in our friendships.

People in this country are so incredibly insecure and downright insane about sexuality. It is just another appetite, like food essential to our survival, but so many of us make it into an ugly and horrible monster. Just like with food, you have to appease it appropriately or be responsible for the consequences.

There is great value in having friendships with anyone. It is a shame if you can't be friends with half the population because of sex differences.

(Admission here that may factor into my opinion. I am a straight, but feminine man who has, thanks to pharmacological technologies of the best anti depressants known, close to a zero sexuality. My compass doesn't point North, so to speak.)