Thank you all for the replies. I trust my wife for many reasons. We have 4 kids and she knows where she needs to be but she needs to deal with her feelings and why she let this happen. She regrets all of this and just wants to get help to sort through it all. We have talked in great detail and these last few days. She just needs to get her head ready for therapy and not all this kid homeschooling stuff. She has given up the idea of contact with the other person. She sees that error now. She does claim to have a very deep love for me and she is sorry. So I have to try here and save the family. Thanks again.